Ubudlelwano obubonakalayo: ukuxhuma noma ukunqamula umphakathi?

Inkundla yezokuxhumana kanye nokuhlakazwa kwezithiyo

Ukwenzeka ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kuyishintshile indlela yokuphila yomphakathi futhi umthelela wawo endleleni esixhumana ngayo mkhulu ngokungangabazeki. Izinhlelo zokusebenza zokuxhumana ezifana ne-Tinder ne-Skype ziguqule indlela abantu abahlangana ngayo nabaxhumana ngayo. Amapulatifomu afana ne-Facebook ne-Skype avumela abasebenzisi ukuthi bahlale bexhumekile kwabaseduze nabathandekayo. Umuntu ngakolunye uhlangothi lwembulunga angaxhumana nolunye ngokushesha ngemva kwemizuzwana. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abantu bangathola ngisho nobungane obusha futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nothando.

I-Tinder, isibonelo, uhlelo lokusebenza lokuthandana olwaqalwa ngo-2012, lusiza abasebenzisi ukuthi bathole abantu abathandana nabo. Yize umqondo wokuqomisana ku-inthanethi (noma inkundla yezokuxhumana) ungemusha impela, ukufinyelela kwawo kunwebeka kakhulu namuhla kunangaphambili. Ngokungafani nezizukulwane ezimbalwa ezedlule lapho okufanayo kwenziwa ngesitayela sendabuko futhi abantu ababefuna ubudlelwano phezu kwenetha babonwa njengabaphelelwe yithemba, ngaleyo ndlela benza ukuqomisana nge-inthanethi kungathandeki, umbono namuhla uhluke kakhulu. Kwamukeleka kakhulu emphakathini futhi sekujwayelekile, cishe ingxenye yabantu base-US abazibandakanya kwezokusabalala noma bazi umuntu okwenzile lokho.

Ngaphandle kwezinzuzo zomuntu siqu, inkundla yezokuxhumana iphinde inikeze izinzuzo zobungcweti, njengethuba lokukhangisa imikhiqizo, ukuxhumana nabathengi ngisho nokuthola umsebenzi. I-LinkedIn, ingosi yokuxhumana echwepheshile eyasungulwa ngo-2003, ihlose “ukunika amandla umsebenzi wakho”, ngokuvumela abantu ukuthi benze iphrofayili yebhizinisi eku-inthanethi futhi baxhumane nozakwabo. Isebenza emazweni angaphezu kuka-200, le sayithi iyodwa inikezela abasebenzisi abangaphezu kwezigidi ezingu-380, okwenza i-LinkedIn ibe ngenye yezingosi zokuxhumana ezidumile ezisetshenziswa namuhla.

Ngenethiwekhi yedijithali efinyeleleka ngokushesha ngezigidigidi, izithiyo ezimbalwa ziphonselwe inselelo futhi zafinyezwa. Izithiyo zendawo, ngokwesibonelo, empeleni azikho ngenxa yobuchwepheshe bezokuxhumana. Noma ubani onoxhumo lwe-inthanethi kanye ne-akhawunti yenkundla yezokuxhumana angajoyina umhlaba okhula njalo wesikhala esibonakalayo futhi enze uxhumano. Kungaba i-Twitter, i-Snapchat, i-Vine, i-Pinterest nanoma iyiphi enye ingosi yokuxhumana nabantu, amathuba okuxhumana nabantu abafanayo¾noma cha¾maningi.

Ubudlelwano obubonakalayo - abukho ngempela ngokwanele

“Ngabo bonke ubuchwepheshe bezenhlalo obunamandla obusesandleni sethu, sixhumeke kakhulu - futhi okungenzeka sinqanyuliwe - kunangaphambili."

~ USusan Tardanico

Ngokubona indlela isigcwagcwa sokuqomisana ku-inthanethi sehle ngokuphawulekayo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kubonakala kungenakugwema ukuthi ukuthola ubungane nezithakazelo zothando kuzoba yinto evamile esikhathini esizayo esiseduze.

Kodwa-ke, ngazo zonke izinzuzo ezibonakalayo ezinikezwa yinkundla yezokuxhumana, kuyadingeka ukuvuma ukuthi akuyona yonke into enhle futhi enhle njengoba ingase ibonakale. Isibonelo, esidingweni sokuzizwa uthandwa futhi wamukelekile emphakathini waku-inthanethi, abantu bavame ukucasha ngokucasha ubuqiniso futhi babeke izithombe zabo ezihlanekezelwe. Kulabo abafuna ubambiswano, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi okungase kuvele ngaphandle kungase kuqhelelene neqiniso. Abanye abantu bagqoka izifihla-buso ukuze baveze ukuphila okujabulisayo nempumelelo, okungase kamuva kubangele imizwa yokungazethembi futhi kwehlise ukuzethemba. Isidingo sokujabulisa abalandeli, abangani namanye amalungu aku-inthanethi nawo angajula, ngaleyo ndlela aqhelelene nomuntu wangempela ekumeleleni kwawo ku-inthanethi. Kunokuba uzethembe futhi uvikeleke ngaphakathi, imizwa yokubaluleka ngendlela eyinqaba ibonakala isuka ngaphandle ngokusekelwe enanini labalandeli, abangani nokunye okunjalo.

Ngalesi sizathu, ubudlelwano obubonakalayo, ikakhulukazi obusebenzisa i-Twitter, i-Instagram ne-Facebook, bubonakala bumayelana nokuncintisana. Mangaki ama-re-tweets atholwe okuthunyelwe? Umuntu unabalandeli nabangane abangaki? Isifiso sokufinyelela izethameli ezibanzi, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ikhwalithi yokuxhumana, ibonakala ibalulekile. Yebo, akubona bonke abasebenzisa lezi zinkundla ababa isisulu somqondo onjalo; nokho, lokho akubali ngaphandle iqiniso lokuthi kukhona abathile abakha ubudlelwano ku-inthanethi ngenjongo yokuqala yokwandisa inethiwekhi yabo.

Ukwengeza, ubudlelwano obubonakalayo okwenzeka ngezindleko ze real okungase kube okukha phezulu futhi kuvimbele. Owokuqala ngandlela thize akufanele abuse okwakamuva. Ubone kangaki umuntu emamatheka ngenkathi ethumela umbhalo futhi ehoxa ngokuphelele kumcimbi wokuxhumana nabantu? Kubantu, ukusondelana ngokomzimba, ukusondelana, nokuthintana konke kunendima ebalulekile ebudlelwaneni. Nokho, kubonakala sinaka kakhulu ukuxhumana okubonakalayo kunalokhu okusizungezile.

Ngakho-ke, silwa kanjani nokuthembela kwethu okwandayo ezinkundleni zokuxhumana ngaphandle kokungazihlanganisi nezwe elisizungezile? Ibhalansi. Nakuba izinkundla zokuxhumana zinikeza ukubalekela ezweni elisha ngokuphelele, yizwe kude kusukela ekuxhumaneni okuku-inthanethi esenza ngempela¾futhi okufanele¾siphile kukho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uxhumo lungabonakala “lwangempela” kanjani, ubudlelwano obubonakalayo abunikezi okudingeka kakhulu. womuntu uxhumano sonke siyaludinga. Ukufunda ukuzuza izinzuzo ezinikezwa yinkundla yezokuxhumana kuyilapho sigcina ibanga elinempilo kuyo kuyikhono esizodinga ukulithuthukisa.

Umkhuba wesikhathi esizayo wobudlelwano obubonakalayo - inkohliso ekhulayo "yangempela"

Njengoba inani elandayo labantu lakha futhi lilondoloze ubudlelwano ngokusebenzisa amasayithi aku-inthanethi, ikusasa lobudlelwano obubonakalayo libonakala likhanya ngokugqamile. Ukuqomisana okuku-inthanethi nobungane kuzohlanganiswa kahle nesiko elivamile (hhayi ukuthi azikho kakade!), Futhi ukukhetha ukufuna ubudlelwano bazo zonke izinhlobo zezizathu kuzoba kuningi, ikakhulukazi njengoba ubuchwepheshe bezokuxhumana buqhubeka nokusabalala.

Nokho, lokho okubonakala kuyinto evamile kungase kukhubaze esikhathini esizayo ngezinga elithile. Isidingo sokuthintwa, isibonelo, singase sibhekwe njengesixakile. Ubudlelwane bomzimba phakathi komuntu, obubalulekile empilweni yomuntu, bungase bube yimbango. UDkt. Elias Aboujaoude, udokotela wezifo zengqondo eStanford, uthi: “Singase siyeke ‘ukufuna’ noma ukulangazelela ukusebenzelana kwangempela nomphakathi ngoba kungase kuhluke kithina.”

Ngokubona indlela umphakathi namuhla onamathele ngayo kuma-smartphones awo noma enye idivayisi kagesi, lokhu akushaqisi kakhulu. Noma kunjalo, iqiniso lokuthi abantu bangakwazi ngokuphelele ukungazibandakanyi ekusebenzelaneni kwangempela kuyashaqisa impela. Isidingo sokuthintwa, naphezu kwayo yonke intuthuko yezobuchwepheshe esingase siyibone, asisoze sashintshwa. Phela ngumuntu oyisisekelo kudingeka. Imibhalo, izithombe-mzwelo, namavidiyo aku-inthanethi akuthathi indawo yokuxhumana nabantu kwangempela.