Usongo lwangempela abazali ababhekana nalo ngezinkundla zokuxhumana

Ukuba umzali kufana nokudlala i-snorkeling eduze neGreat Barrier Reef. Udonsa umoya kakhulu, ungene ngekhanda emhlabeni obucabanga ukuthi uyazi ukuthi uyawuqonda. Uma usungaphansi, kuyacaca ukuthi ngokuqinisekile akuyona into ebibukeka ngayo.  

Ngezinye izikhathi ubona okuthile okumangalisayo futhi okumangalisayo. Kwesinye isikhathi, uhlangana nento ehlasimulisa umzimba njengofudu lwasolwandle olubanjwe indandatho yesix pack. Kunoma ikuphi, ekupheleni kohambo, ukhathele futhi uphelelwa umoya, kodwa uyazi ukuthi besifanele isikhathi.  

Abantu abaningi bangavuma ukuthi kuhlale kunezinkinga ezintsha ezibhekana nesizukulwane ngasinye sabazali lapho sikhulisa ingane. Namuhla, kunesithiyo esisha kubazali, indandatho entsha yamaphakethe ayisithupha uma uthanda. Le nkinga entsha emkhathizwe ngabazali ngokwabo.  

Okuxakayo ukuthi, lolu songo olusha alukho ezinganeni eziphuma kobaba abahlukumezayo noma komama abavikela ngokweqile. Usongo empeleni luvela ezenzweni zesikhathi esidlule zomzali: kusuka kumabhulogi, ama-akhawunti we-Twitter kanye nokuthunyelwe kwe-Facebook kwabazali ngokwabo. Izingane manje nasesikhathini esizayo zingathola imikhondo yangempela ye-inthanethi eshiywe abazali bazo, okungadala inkinga. 

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyizingane ezizama ukulingisa isigigaba sikayise noma ziphindaphinda amazwi aphikisayo eziwabone kuFacebook kamama wazo, izingane ziphindaphinda izenzo ezibonwa kuFacebook. Ngaphandle kokungenelela kwabantu abadala, lokhu kuphindaphinda kuzoba kubi kakhulu.  

Akumangalisi ukuthi sekunabazali abazama ukulwa nemiphumela emibi yabazali ku-inthanethi ngokusebenzisa amasu nezindlela ezahlukene. Abanye abazali bafuna ukufundisa, abanye bafuna ukuzinqamula ngokuphelele izinkundla zokuxhumana, kodwa into eyodwa laba bantu abafana ngayo iwuhlelo lokuvikela izingane zabo.  

Ukuphila Ngaphandle Kwe-inthanethi 

Owesifazane oyedwa unendlela yokubhekana nalesi singqinamba: gwema. Umbono kaJessica Brown uwukulingisa isikhathi ngaphandle kwenkundla yezokuxhumana. Lokho kungase kuzwakale njengokuhlanya ekuqaleni kuze kube yilapho evikela umbono wakhe. 

Kungase kuthuse kwabanye, kodwa uBrown ucabanga ukuthi abazali abaningi abakwazanga ukuhambisana nokushintsha kwesimo se-inthanethi futhi izingane eziningi zithola ukuthi obani ngempela abazali bazo. Uyazi ukuthi izingane ziyohlale zilingisa abantu abadala ikakhulukazi uma izenzo zomuntu omdala zibangela amahloni noma izimungulu. Impendulo elula yokuvimba izingane ekutholeni izenzo ezinamahloni noma ezivame ukunganaki zabazali ukunqamula i-inthanethi.  

UBrown ufuna ukubuyela emuva esikhathini lapho indodana yakhe ingeke ikwazi ukufinyelela ezinkundleni zokuxhumana. Unomuzwa wokuthi i-inthanethi nezindlela eziningi esixhumana ngazo ziyishintshile indlela abazali abakhuluma ngayo nezingane zabo kanye nokuxhumana. “Ngifuna ingane yami ixhumane nezinye izingane kanye nami mathupha, hhayi ngemiyalezo ye-Facebook. 

Ukholelwa ukuthi njengoba abazali abaningi beba abangane bakaFacebook nezingane zabo kuyaphikisana. “Ngifuna ingane yami ingihloniphe ngoba ngingumama wayo. Ungathandi futhi ulandele okuthunyelwe kwami. " Uqhuba akhulume ngendlela afuna azi ngayo umehluko phakathi komngani nonegunya njengoba izinkundla zokuxhumana kwesinye isikhathi ziwufiphalisa lowo mugqa.  

Ngokusho kukaBrown, naphezu kokungabi nalutho indodana yakhe engayiphonsa ebusweni bakhe ku-inthanethi, unabo abangani angafuni ukuthi ifunde lutho kubo. Uthi “angacabanga imibono angayithola kweminye yemisebenzi efakwe abangani bami kuFacebook.” Yilokho okumkhathazayo.   

Uyazi futhi ukuthi amaphutha entsha yomuntu kufanele afundise izifundo nokuthi kunzima ngempela ukuba nawo ku-inthanethi ukuze izingane zakho ziwabone futhi mhlawumbe ziphinde zilingise. “Uma indodana yami yenza iphutha ekuphileni, kufanele ngethemba ukuthi ingeyakho futhi ifunde kulo,” kusho uBrown. Akafuni nje ukuthi aphinde amaphutha abanye abantu abadala. 

UBrown ucabanga ukuthi izingane ezikwazi ukufinyelela ezinyathelweni ze-inthanethi zabazali azibavumeli abazali babe abazali futhi izingane zibe izingane. Uchaza ukuthi izinkundla zokuxhumana nezinye izici ze-inthanethi zibangele ukuthi abazali nezingane bavilaphe futhi banciphise indlela esiqoqa ngayo ulwazi, ukuxhumana nabantu esibathembayo. “Ukwaneliseka ngokushesha kuyinto engingafuni ukuba ingane yami ihileleke kuyo,” kusho uBrown. 

Uvikela umbono wakhe ngendlela akhuliswe ngayo kanti ubhekise kulabo abakhule ne-internet isakhula: “Bekumele silinde ukwazi ukuthi abangani bethu bacabangani ngezinto, bekumele silandele izindaba zemicimbi hhayi ku-twitter, thina bekufanele sicabange ngezenzo zethu esikhundleni sokuvele sithumele amazwana bese siyasusa uma bekungafanele.”  

UBrown unxusa ukuthi noma kukho konke okuhle okwenziwe yi-inthanethi, ufuna indodana yakhe ikhulume naye kunokuba imthumelele imiyalezo. Ukuze ubheke ulwazi ezincwadini ezishicilelwe zamaphepha, hhayi ku-inthanethi. Ufuna aqonde ukuthi akuyona yonke into okufanele isheshe futhi ngezinye izikhathi impilo ayibukhazikhazi njengoba i-inthanethi ikwenza kube njalo. 

Sekukonke okushiwo nokwenziwe, uBrown akulona itshe elibheke emhlabeni omzungezile. “Ngiyazi ukuthi umfana wami uzofuna iselula asebenzise izinkundla zokuxhumana ukuze enze izinhlelo nabangani bakhe. Ngifuna nje azi ukuthi kungamthinta kanjani.” Uveza ukuthi uyazi inqobo nje uma ekhuthele naye, uzokhula enenhlonipho efanayo naleyo ayenayo kubazali bakhe.  

Enye indlela 

Nakuba uBrown enendlela yakhe yokubhekana nendlela izinkundla zokuxhumana ezithinta ngayo ukukhulisa izingane, uBarb Smith, uthisha obhalisiwe wezingane ezisencane, unendlela ehlukile. USmith usebenze nezingane ezingaphezu kweminyaka engama-25 futhi ubone izinsongo eziningi ezingaba khona futhi uyakuqonda ukukhathazeka okuboniswa ngale nselele entsha eyinqaba yabazali.  

USmith uyachaza ukuthi izingane zilingisa izenzo zabazali bazo, ezinhle noma ezimbi, yinto ehlala yenzeka. Ngakho-ke izingane ezingena enkingeni ngokusekelwe ekutholweni kwenkundla yezokuxhumana yabazali akuyona nje into ekhathazayo engenzeka, kodwa into yangempela ezokwenzeka.  

Lesi simo siye saboniswa kaningi lapho uSmith evumela isikhathi samahhala sezingane azifundisayo. “Babejwayele ukwenza sengathi bayafonelana ngocingo lwasendlini noma i-play store basebenzise imali yokuzenzisa,” kusho uSmith. Uqhuba ngokuthi "manje benza sengathi babhala umbhalo kanye ne-tweet, manje sebesebenzisa amakhadi edebithi namakhadi esikweletu." Lokhu kusho ukuthi izingane aziboni kuphela okwenziwa abazali bazo, kodwa zilwela ukulingisa ukuziphatha. Lokhu kuzochaza ukuthi kungani abantu bekhathazekile ngokuthi izingane zilingisa nokuziphatha kwabazali ku-inthanethi.    

USmith uveza ukuthi ngisho nezingane ezincane seziyakwazi ukusebenzisa ama-tablet namafoni nokuthi ukuzivimba ukuthi zingene ezinkundleni zokuxhumana kungaba lula kunokukwenza. Uthi abazali kungenzeka bangakhathazeki ngezingane ezincane ezizama ukwenza kabusha ama-stunts nama-pranks, kodwa izingane ezindala zingase zibe yinkinga.  

USmith uxwayisa ngokuthi ukuqedwa kwazo zonke izinkundla zokuxhumana empilweni yengane kungase kungabi yisixazululo esiphelele. “Kudingeka kube nokulinganisela,” kusho uSmith. Uqhuba ngokuthi “ngezinye izikhathi bahlangana nezinto okungafanele bahlangane nazo futhi ngaphandle kokuqonda kahle kungase kube nezinkinga ezinkulu.”  

USmith uveza ukuthi lokhu bekulokhu kwenzeka futhi akuyona into ongazikhathaza ngayo. “Okufanele abazali bakwenze wukuhlala phansi izingane zabo bazichaze ukuthi yini elungile nengalungile. Fundisa izingane ukuthi zingalingisi zonke.” Ugcizelela ukuthi izinkinga eziningi zabazali zingaxazululwa ngokuqapha. Abazali kudingeka bakuqaphele abakwenzile esikhathini esidlule futhi baqaphe ukuthi izingane zabo zingena kuphi.  

Nokho, uyasiqonda isizathu esenza umuntu afune ukuvala izwe lanamuhla lokuzanelisa ngokushesha. Njengoba engumzali ngokwakhe, uyaqonda ukuthi kunezindlela eziningi ezahlukene zokukhulisa izingane zokusingatha izinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi. “Angikwazi ukwahlulela abanye abazali ngokususa ukuba khona kwenkundla yezokuxhumana noma bayisebenzise njengomzanyana.” Uthi kunesixazululo esisobala kakhulu okungenzeka ukuthi asibonwanga.  

Isixazululo sakhe: abazali badinga nje ukuba abazali. Isitatimende sakhe singase singabi bukhazikhazi noma sisha, kodwa uthi amazwi akhe asebenze kwezinye izinkinga esikhathini esidlule. “Izingane zisancike ebuchwephesheni obusha futhi zisazoqhubeka nokukhula ngazo futhi ziye phambili. Abazali kufanele baxhumane futhi bafundise ukuziphatha okufanele. "  

Uphetha ngokuthi “uma izingane zazi imiphumela yenkundla yezokuxhumana, zizokwenza izinqumo ezinhle, mhlawumbe zifunde nasemaphutheni abazali bazo abawenzile.” Amazwi kaSmith okuhlukanisa agcwele ukuqonda. Ugcizelela ukuthi “asikwazi ukwahlulela abazali ngendlela ababheka ngayo le nkinga. Asikho lapho.” 

Kuzohlala kunobunzima obusha uma kuziwa kubuchwepheshe obusha noma obukhona. Kuzohlala kunobunzima ekukhuliseni izingane. Kudingeka sikhumbule ukuthi ngazo zonke izinsongo ezintsha, kuhlale zikhona izindlela ezihlukene zokubhekana nakho.  

Esingakwenza nje ukulinda futhi sethemba ukuthi abazali bangakwazi ukubhekana nalolu songo lwenkundla yezokuxhumana. Phela, uma izingane zijabule futhi ziphilile ekupheleni kosuku, pho singobani thina esingasho ukuthi yini elungile noma engalungile?